Yeah, absolutely. And this advice is gender neutral. I understand your question, but I would give the same advice to anyone of any gender. You want to champion for yourself. So, whenever someone comes to me and unfortunately is often women, but not always, explaining that they feel that they should get a salary increase regardless of what the rationale is, or if we do it or not, I always applaud them for coming forward. You absolutely need to come forward and ask the question.
Certainly, it goes without saying, but unfortunately it needs to be said, do not tolerate any kind of mistreatment. And this is where I’ll make a plug for HR. Don’t be afraid of HR, your human resources partners are your friends. They are advocating for you as employees, as well as helping the business be successful. And those two things are very much linked. So, if you feel that you were being mistreated, if you’ve observed others being mistreated, It’s very, very important to come forward and speak to someone. That is not something that you should be harboring quietly on your own.
I have a funny story about advocating for yourself. So, when I was at American Express, I was pregnant with my second son and I had applied for promotional HR business partner opportunity within the same group and the leader of that group sat in an office, a couple of feet away from me. So, I would see him every day. We would chat on his way to get coffee or whatnot. And I never heard anything about my application. And I thought that was odd because I was already on the team and I was an internal employee, never heard anything. And then one day I approached him. And I asked about the opportunity. I expressed my interest. I expressed why I thought I was ready, why I’d be a great fit for the role. And it was like a light bulb went off in his head that prior to that moment, he hadn’t thought about me for that role. But when I pointedly asked him a light bulb went off and he said, you’re right, we should interview you. So the timing wasn’t perfect because once he realized this, I was literally about to give birth. So he quickly scheduled interviews for me with the main clients that this role would support. And of course, I wound up giving birth three days early, so those meetings didn’t happen. And then I had to come in from maternity leave and interview for this role. But I did it and I got the job. It was an amazing, amazing opportunity. Looking back. I probably should have advocated for myself even sooner, but again, you need to be your own champion. You can’t just wait for things to come your way.